Are you giving yourself permission to grieve?

Today I want to talk about grief. How demonising it can be to miss someone so much that you would want to rip your heart out. And maybe one of the toughest forms of grief, is the one when the person is still alive, running around, but they are not part of our life anymore. How tormenting it can all be! And this is the reason why I want to address it. I want to say that it is all ok. It is alright to grieve. It is alright for you to take time. It is alright to be sad and cry. You are not weak for doing you. You don’t have to be tough to please others. You are not a piece of furniture that can be pushed around when someone feels you are “ruining the view”. You are a human being with a soul. You are made of feelings. So please feel these feelings, let them out, speak about them. So you can flower again, so you can throw down that baggage you are carrying on your shoulders, so you can enjoy life again and cherish the people that are in you life right now. Maybe you have children, maybe you have friends, parents… people who need you, who love you, who are worried about you. Value them. Try to not take them for granted. Be appreciative, grateful for what you have got. Know that if your loved one passed away, they are in a good place, they are taken care of and they will be always with you in your heart. You just need to call them and in faith you will feel their presence. Just because they don’t have a physical body right now, like you and me, doesn’t mean they are gone. You need to hang in there. And if you are grieving after someone who has left you, well then you are better off anyway. It might sound harsh, but this is the truth. Try to see the value in yourself and understand that if you didn’t resonate, well then maybe that person doesn’t belong in your life and someone better is coming along. We need to have standards in life, not accept anything. Love yourself. Respect yourself. And if that person left because of something you did, well then forgive yourself. You could also write them a letter … not for them, for yourself. You don’t need to give it to them, but writing it will help you release all that stored up grief and move on. We all make mistakes, however, there is no need to chop our own head because of them. Trust in yourself and dare to get up and move on. The best period of your life is yet to come!

Enjoy your day!

Love,

Raluca